How do you react when you hear the phrase “dysfunctional family”? Do you smirk and say, “Oh, man, I could tell you some stories”? Maybe you roll your eyes and think, “Christ, here we go with that ‘My daddy didn’t love me enough’ bullshit.” I used to do the latter; people use a bad childhood as a “Get Out of Responsibility Free” card, and even if they were actually from dysfunctional families, who gives a shit? Get over it and move on with your goddamn life, pussy.
But research says there are some very weird, specific and often annoying personality traits a person develops coming from a bad home, and once you know how to look for it, you see them everywhere. See if you recognize any of these people. Maybe you remember them from high school. Or, hell, maybe it’s you …
Cracked sometimes has some very illuminating articles for being a humor site that consists predominantly of boobs and making fun of idiots. For anybody who doesn’t understand, or would like to understand, certain behaviors certain people from chaotic backgrounds exhibit, this is an entertaining and informative read.
Particularly 2 and 1.
I never thought a Cracked article would resonate with me so much. (Especially the “not being able to finish projects” and “overly self-judgmental” bits)
i usually just write off any cracked articles as dumb nerd pandering bullshit but goddamn if this didn’t hit home in a few places
especially with the having no mercy in judging myself
my stepdad was always emotionally distant from the things he would say to me, not understanding how his consistent belittling/verbal lashings when i couldn’t figure out a math problem or understand things on his same level of understanding were consistently chipping away at my confidence
if i brought home a test where i got a 95, i would always be met with “why didn’t you get 100”
the most painful aspect of this is when it eventually spread to my mom, who beforehand would be very proud and supportive when i brought home grades i was proud of and it basically killed me inside for a while
eventually i just said fuck it and just gave up on pleasing anyone (especially my parents) for a while, so i would always neglect things and just take the verbal backlash with “yep, mmhmm, yeah i’m garbage and you’re great” and stare at the several things in my household that would end things immediately for me
this shit has sort of manifested itself in me taking every little mistake i do and magnifying it into something that really doesn’t call for me to dwell on them (although the past few years i have gotten better at shrugging some things off, but i can’t say that i’ve necessarily done all that well in ridding myself of this complex)
Hahah wow number one. Just reading that actually freaked me out a little.